Fake orgasms and bad behaviour

I do not agree with faking orgasms, I feel it encourages bad behaviour. If what he’s doing isn’t enough to get you off why are you rewarding those efforts with a fake orgasm? In the end the only one you are hurting is yourself. Men don’t forget. If he thinks what he was doing worked well and was enough to get you off then he’s going to continue doing it. You are just dooming yourself and his future partners to bad sex. And ladies I really don’t think we need any more bad sex in our lives. 

I’m sure we all have that similar story of a man who bragged about his abilities to make women orgasm, you were doubtful at first of course but he seemed so confident in himself. When you finally find yourself in bed with him your initial suspicions were correct it’s a disappointment, his moves are off, he does not appear to have any idea where the clit is and you are genuinely bored. You want it to be over but he’s the kind of guy that needs you to orgasm, you can see it across his face he’s waiting for it the big finish. By now you are so turned off you know its just not going to happen; You have two choices you can either fake the big finish end it quickly and never see him again or you can tell him “I’m sorry, it’s just not working for me and it’s not going to happen.” Actually go one better teach him tell him exactly what you want, how you like it what does and does not work. If he is eager to learn give the man a chance maybe he’s just been with woman who faked it for the easy ending and never taught him how to not be a selfish lover.

I was seventeen when I first kicked someone out of my bed for genuinely being terrible. I look back on it now and feel pretty bad for the guy however I feel my actions were justified. It just was not working, he was a selfish lover and wasn’t willing to change his technique. So I asked him to stop actually my exact words were “Can you please stop now, because this just isn’t working for me and I would rather be sleeping.”  He left, ego bruised. Not bruised enough though to stop trying to sleep with me every time he saw me out. Maybe some men do forget.

16 thoughts on “Fake orgasms and bad behaviour

  1. We’re not clairvoyant: we need guidance. Despite the rubbish that’s widely broadcast, you’re all different. Faking is dumb, suffering in silence is even dumber. If you’re too embarrassed to tell(though I don’t know why you should be), find another way to communicate. It’s not rocket science and it really does not have to be difficult.

  2. Loved the anecdote (“maybe some men do forget”, horny bastard haha)! And 100% agree with the ‘don’t fake an orgasm’ thing. Why give men the satisfaction when you aren’t getting any yourself? Share the love(making) (if there is any)!

    1. You would be surprised Reenie. I know a few women who have never (or rarely) reached an orgasm during sex, and they admit to often just faking it to make the men feel better about not being able to get them there.

      1. I guess that just surprises me. I want to believe that we have surpassed our mother’s and grandmother’s eras and are finding what works for us. This is an amazing topic and you have hit the nail on the head. No one should be faking sexual satisfaction.

  3. Oh, it happens to me, like, ALL the time. It is some kind of dilemma, since Indonesian men (mostly) are terrible lovers on bed. Perhaps it’s because of our so-called Eastern culture, that sex is taboo, it caused them to never think that pleasing their women is one of the most important thing on earth. Or perhaps, it was just my “luck” to–somehow–always meet such man. Well, I did meet only one (out of many) who was amazing on bed, and such man is rare here. Really.

    I think culture, environment, and (of course) religious reason, count. It’s either made our men to pay attention to the quality of sex, or just using “taboo” as reason to stay lazy and lousy on bed.

  4. I did not know what I was doing. I thought it was right, turns out it was wrong, all wrong. Seems so long ago, well it was. Then I met a woman, who showed me my short comings. Things were better, much better. The satisfaction for me in giving my partner an orgasm is better than when I have my own. Which is why I usually go without or else maintian the experiance over a night and into the morning.

  5. Absolutely tell your partner to do his homework, Never give him a pass, I have posted about this on my blog too. I also posted about cunnilingus and it’s graphic.I actually re-blogged that from a mans blog.
    But it’s necessary for guys that have no clue had to treat or lick pussy.

    As women if we let them get away with thinking they gave us an orgasm when they didn’t even come close. They will never know just how bad they are. It’s us to us to show them. If they aren’t willing then they need to get to steppin..

  6. There’s a difference between the guy who doesn’t know what he’s doing and the guy who doesn’t know what he’s doing and/or doesn’t give a fuck, and the former needs on the job (sorry) training and the latter kicking to the kerb.

    I’ve dated a couple of both back in the day and I pride myself on having released 2 now very skilled swordsmen back out into the wild to pleasure and delight others of my sex, and have also very much enjoyed shouting ‘STOP!’ and kicking the other kind out of my bed before they come and before my fanny turns to chopped liver. And serves them right too! 🙂

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